Ask Me Wednesday!!

     Hello, my peeps.  Yes, it's Wednesday again.  It is now 10:07 p.m. (pay no attention to the time stamp at the bottom of this post) and it is raining like crazy outside.  I just got home ..... for the first time all day.

     I went to work this morning and stayed until it was time to go pick up some food for Son #3 and take to his track meet.  He is pole vaulting again this year.  I love watching him.  And I find it a fascinating sport to watch.  

And ...... drum roll please ..... he came in 3rd!!  I was very proud of him.  I think he was pretty stunned at the height he managed to vault .... it's his personal best .... 8 feet, 6 inches.  Not bad.

     After his track meet I went out to dinner with my Circle.  I hadn't seen any of them in more than a week .... and it was a very good evening.  It usually seems to work out that one of us is really struggling .... more so than usual ..... the night we meet and so we are able to love on and support whomever it is that week.  No, it wasn't me this week, thankfully.  Had I been able to rise above the pain and depression last week .... it would've been me.  

It's always wonderful to notice the difference in how we all arrive .... and how we leave.  Yes, some wine is always consumed, but it has nothing to do with that.

We all come in weary after the day ..... after the week.  But we get happier and happier the longer we are together.  It's usually difficult to make the decision to end the evening.  

Tonight the woman who needed us the most was so very much better when we left ..... so much.

I love watching each of us heal just a little bit more every time we meet.

     In other news, Michele over at "Widow's Voice"

asked today if I would like to be a contributing writer to that blog.  I am very humbled .... and excited.  I said yes.  So I will be writing a post one day a week on that blog now.  I'm really looking forward to it.

     So, all in all, today was a good day.  And I am grateful .... and thankful.  I take 'em when I can get 'em.

      And now I will tackle the questions for the day:

kikibibi said...
My question for AMW: Will you pray for me?

Oh my dear, dear kikibibi ....... I am honored and humbled to pray for you.  (I did not include your whole comment on this post ..... but it is on your comment from yesterday.)

You, my friend, are NOT a terrible daughter.  How I wish I could stand at your doorstep right this very moment, so that when you opened the door I could give you a huge hug.

You do not suck.

You are coping.  And your are doing it the only way you know how at this moment in time.  You are trying to survive and not get sucked in.

I promise that I will pray for you .... and for your mom and sisters.  You need strength and peace and comfort.  And ..... I have no doubt that there will be many, many people praying for you now.

Thank you SO much for asking me.  It means more than I can say that you would ask.  No matter what is going on in my life ...... I want to be able to pray for others.  Always.

So thank you.

And now I will post the comment that L left for you:

Janine

Going to use your site here.
A message to kikibibi....As someone who knows depression (mom a lifetime member probably, past husband a couple of bouts, a couple myself and a couple for a son), I feel your pain. Sometimes a simple "i love you and I know you hurt and I have confidence in you" is totally enough, but others times, not even close. No one could "fix" my depression, but the love and watchful eye of those close to me helped me identify when I was at the point of needing treatment. If your mom is denying treatment, that's another issue...my husband at the time did the same and I made an appt for him and put him in the car and drove him to the doc. Later he was thankful as the cloud lifted. People with depression cannot make the decision to get treatment. It is more than they have in them. You are certainly not BAD to feel the way you do. Depression sucks the people around the sufferer dry. So dry. Learn more. If only that you can set boundaries while still loving your mom.
I'm sorry you are struggling with this! Depression affects so many and we are just not armed with enough tools.

JB asks:

What originally attracted you to Law School? What type of law did you want to practice?

Hmmmmm ..... let me see if I can remember back that far .....

I'm not sure what it was originally, but it may have been my first political science class.  I loved it. I kept taking them .... and ended up minoring in PoliSci.

My first passion was Theatre and I really did intend to see if I could make that my profession, but kept law school in the back of my mind as a "fall back" plan.  I even changed my major to Political Science early in my Junior year, but felt so miserable about that decision that I changed it back the next semester.  Theatre had my heart.  PoliSci had my common sense.

Once I knew that Jim and I would be getting married, I shut the Theatre door and opened up the Law School door.  It made sense.  My dad wanted me to go.  It seemed like the right thing to do.

And so I went.  I considered International Law and just general practice.  I knew I didn't want to go into corporate law, nor did I want to be a D.A.

But really, truly ..... I didn't really want to be a lawyer, either.  It just seemed to be what was expected.  And I tried to make it work ..... but it wasn't God's plan, either ..... and so it didn't.  I went for a year and did well enough, but huge changes in my life made it impossible for me to continue .... and stay sane.  I worked full time and went to school at night.  And then studied until the wee hours of the morning, because I could not study during the day.  My heart was not in it, my life was spiraling and I knew I had to quit.

So I did.  And have never really regretted it.  I've wondered how it would have all turned out had I stayed with it, but have never regretted it.

God had better plans.

More info that you asked for ..... but there ya go.

kdawnmartin: My question for you would be...what are some of your fond memories of our childhood?? Just wondering if we have any of the same. Love you sis! Hope today was better than yesterday.

My favorite childhood memories are from the time we lived on Latimer.  Selling golfballs back to the golfers (our house backed up to a golf course) .... yelling "Golfballs for sale!!" at the top of our lungs, playing hide and seek until nightfall with the neighbors, watching Michael ride his big wheel down the street, playing in that back yard ..... playing over at the Coulsons' .... while the parents played cards ...... 

Are they the same?  You probably had more fun over on Allegheny, but I was in high school by then ...... 

jessica said...
Okay - I'll be completely crude and ask: Wasn't there a photo that you were promising/threatening to post, showing your surgical "wound"?

yes .... there was.  If I remember .... I'll add it at the end of this post.  That way all of the squeamish people can know when to look away.

Dear J,
Frivolous question I know, but Pygmalion with Leslie Howard was on when I woke up - make that B woke me up - at 5 this morning. Of course I thought of Gone With the Wind and you. Here's my question: how did you always imagine things went for Scarlett after the end of the movie? Do you think she got Rhett back? I always thought so, but I always go for the happy ending and since I haven't read the book, I wondered what you thought.
Love you,
AEW

Ahhhhhh.  GWTW ....... I think I've seen that movie over 20 times.  I've read the book at least 5 times.  I always liked to picture the two of them getting back together.  I mean ..... who would end up having either one of them?!

I, too, always preferred a happy ending.  

lfintexas:
 - My kids are doing a timeline of their life at school, and it involved an interview of their parent(s) about what our life was like at that age (2nd grade/elementary school). My memory is so bad, I had to google a couple of things just to remember what was around at that time - LOL.
So, on that note, here are a few of the questions...EVERYONE - feel free to join in and answer as many as you like!

1. Favorite TV show, movie?  Wow .... way back then .... I loved "The Brady Bunch", "The Partridge Family", "Marcus Welby, M.D", "Emergency" ... "Gilligan's Island"
2. What was your school like?  We moved around a lot, so I went to several elementary schools.  The last one (grades 4-6) was a typical school .... K through 6th.  We had a mixture of races and income.  I liked that school .... liked the friends I had, loved going from class to class.  
3. What kind of lunch box did you have?  Didn't.  I had to buy my lunch.
4. What kind of clothes did you wear? Well, only the coolest, obviously.  Stuff from the 70's .... jeans, t-shirts, peasant tops, ponchos,  ... the usual.
5. What chores did you have? All of them.
6. What did you do in your spare time? played outside, read, read, read
7. What was your favorite subject in school?  I loved art ... and the teacher.
8. Who was president and what big events were in the news?  Nixon's the one I remember the most.  I recall my parents forcing us to watch the first man on the moon (and wanting to go play outside).  Vietnam War.



judemiller1 has left a new comment on your post "Not much to say ......":

I was curious how the older people in your church can do the Mentary (sp), if they can't get down on the floor or stand for the entire liturgy?
Thanks.

I'm at a loss on this one, JM.  I don't know what that is.  We don't have kneelers in our church and we stand at different times .... during many of the songs and prayers.  If it would be too much for someone then I'm assuming they would feel free to sit down, just as I have the past 2 weeks.  

Someone will have to jump in here and help out with this one .... please.

OK, I think that's all of today's questions.  As always, if I left yours out please let me know and I will be sure to add it.

And now ...... it's the moment you've all been waiting for .......  AEW, it's now time for you to close this window ....... you've been warned.

Son #3 helped me pick out the "best" picture ..... it's kind of hard to take a decent picture of this area, but in the name of science and medicine .... here you go:

    Impressive, ain't it?  The two scars at the bottom are the drain holes.  

So now that you've seen my hip ...... my life is pretty much an open book, isn't it?

sigh .....