Ask Me Wednesday!!

Happy Wednesday, Peeps.

Thank you for all of the reminders ..... in the comments, in e-mails, and even in a text message from a phone number I did not recognize! You guys are great!

So yes, I remembered the camera.

Alas, the team lost .... 7-6, but it was a great game. We scored our touch down in the last 30 seconds of the game. Son #3 had thought it would be a massive slaughter, but it was not .... not by a long shot. And he, of course, played extremely well and helped throw a few guys to the ground. I'll post pics tomorrow so you'll be able to see this was no small feat. The other team was quite large .... literally. Our team .... not so much.

So yay for our team. They held their own.

Today was a long day ..... went to work and then went to work at the therapist's office. It was a long session (she held me over) and it was hard. I seem to be grieving "very hard", which is normal .... especially since I wasn't able to last year. She also picked up on a lot of anger towards God ...... more than I thought I had. Who'd a thunk?

But it makes sense .... if I really am just now doing the "normal" grieving, then I'm just now getting down to the anger part.

She's also trying to get me to see that I have too many responsibilities and need to give up a few things to make room for the grief. It's hard for me to see that. I think if I make room for the grief I'll sit at home and go crazy.

So we're working on that.

She says that I should have no expectations of myself for this year, nor should anyone else ... the same as the first year for most people.

She'd like me to cut down on writing the blog, because she sees it as a "responsibility" for me. Some days I see it as that, too ..... I don't want to disappoint people on some days by not writing, or make anyone worry if I don't write for a couple of days. But most days I need to do it. But .... I told her that I would agree and try to not post every day.

So .... don't give up on me if I don't post a often. I need the prayers, the affirmation and the feedback that you all so freely give.

And who knows .... I may really go crazy if I don't post often enough so we'll have to find something else to cut back on. :)

On to the questions ...... (we won't stop "Ask Me Wednesday"):

RJ asked:

For Ask Me Wednesday. What do you think of Roger Federer? We had reports here that he heard a baby crying in the crowd, and it spurred him to win over Tommy Robredo. Any advice for the father of twin girls?

Another question: Is there a habit you'd like to pick up? Is there a habit you would like to break?

Hi RJ,

I admire Federer quite a bit. I've read that he's one of the nicest men on the tour. He's very caring and encouraging to the other players. And as a player himself, he does make tennis look like art. He is an amazing player ..... and now that he's a father of twin girls ... he's that much better. :)

As far as habits go ..... I wish I could stop chewing the inside of my mouth when I'm stressed, or shaking my leg, or doing other things that make it so obvious that I'm extremely stressed, but mostly the mouth thing cuz it hurts the most.

As for one I'd like to pick up .... to be able to leave my house in plenty of time for everything I have to do..

My lovely sister, Dawn, asked:

Oh and for ask me Wednesday...What do you do with 2 teenage boys that think they don't have to do a dang thing around the house. They do do their laundry but then sometimes leave it in the washing machine and I have to take it out and put it in the dryer. Then have to take it out of the dryer...do you fold it or just put it in the basket? I do have so many questions about teenage boys because my two step sons are about on my last nerve. Well... the 18 year old is...the 22 is somewhat ok sometimes. Any enlighting you might bestow upon me will be greatly appreciated!

Dawn,

I can NOT believe you had enough guts to ask me this in public!! You know what I think about that!!! Very, very little.

When it's time to move the laundry out of the washer .... I would dump it in a basket (or on the floor) soaking wet. It's not YOUR job to do it ..... no matter what stage it's in. I've often times just moved in out of the washer. Sometimes I'll move it to the dryer, depending on my mood and how nice they've been, sometimes I might even fold it when it comes out of the dryer, but that's rare. Most times I'd dump it in a basket, or on the dryer, to continue the next load.

Stop doing the work for those boys!!

You asked. :)

bbeatley asked:

Why doesn't D#1 want her picture on your blog? (Maybe you have answered that before, but I didn't see it).

Did you ever have any problems with your children wanting to quit stuff and if so, did you allow them to? My 6 year old just quit Football...and we allowed him too because he doesn't know what he is doing, the coaches weren't teaching him, and we were scared that he would get hurt. One of my twins who is 12...joined band this year and now he wants to quit because he said it is too hard. I told him no, but I wonder if I am being too hard on him. I don't want them to think they can keep quitting everything when things start to get a little tough.

Hi bbeatley and welcome to AMW!

I'm not exactly sure why D#1 doesn't want her picture on the blog. She's very private. I'm not sure what she thinks might happen .... I told her that if I don't have her picture on it then the love of her life won't be able to see it and contact her.

It didn't work.

Yes, we've dealt with this "Quitting" problem before. I would say that for most things, we didn't (and still don't) let the kids quit. It would depend on each situation, though and what impact it would have on the child ---- to stay or to quit. But mostly ..... no quitting.

Personally, I think 6 is a little young for football so I might have given in on that one. But for the 12 year old and band .... I would say stick it out. It's tough (we've been through band) but he will get a lot out of it and can decide at the end of the year whether to continue on or not. My guess is that he'll probably continue.

I know that teachers and coaches tend to be tougher at the beginning of the year in order to weed out the weaker students.

I agree .... you definitely don't want them quitting stuff every time something gets hard.

Good question!

Cici so hilariously asked:

My question...I often forget to take my camera to events. Does that ever happen to you?

Cici,

Hmmmmmm ..... my answer would have to be .... yes ...... yes it does.

:)

Nat asked:

Here's my question-

Did the game get rained out?

Hi Nat,

Nope .... it did not. They did change the game to another stadium, though .... one with astroturf rather than real grass, though. I guess they didn't want our dainty footballers to get muddy.

We sat in the drizzle for part of the game, but it wasn't too bad.

OK, Peeps .... thanks for asking.

Maybe I'll write tomorrow .... maybe I won't. We shall see.

Bear with me, please.

I'm working on me.

: )