Really.
I met three women this week (in person and/or over the internet) .... and while I love meeting these women and being able to connect with them so quickly, I hate that they have this reason to meet me.
Absolutely.
Hate.
It.
My heart loves each woman that I meet, but my heart also brings me to tears on behalf of each one.
It's a strange, bittersweet experience that is difficult to explain to someone on the "outside".
It's something I never experienced before Jim died ..... liking someone instantly and yet hating having to meet them.
This Circle just sucks.
And yet .... it's one of the most wonderful things in my life.
Each one of us wishes that we'd wake up and find out that we really had never met because we had no reason to meet.
But each one of us is so thankful that we have met.
See?
It's a strange contradiction.
I'm sad that I know so very many widowed people.
But I don't know what I'd do without them.
And thankful that I don't have to.
5 comments:
Unfortunately I am one of those widows and I am thankful that we have met but wishes we wouldn't have had to. Hugs to you Janine.
My mother, my mother-in-law, and my best friend are all widows. Watching them grieve has been a life-altering experience for me.
So much so that I wrote a book about four lifelong women friends who all become widowed and how their experiences change their lives and freindships. I am a professional writer with five previous books to my credit. Life, Death, and Doughnuts has been getting high praise from readers and I have heard from several widows who said they can relate to all of it. I hope it is a poignant, realistic, and also funny look at the devastation that the loss of a husband wreaks. Check it out at amazon.com
Life, Death, and Doughnuts.
Karin Kasdin
I could not agree with you more. I would never wish, this widow thing on anyone. But it is what it is and we somehow must learn to deal with it. Like the Bee Gee's song says, "no one told us about the sorrow". Can be such a lonely place, but do find my widow friends to be wonderful to lean on during some of those times.
So true for all of us in this particular sisterhood of widow-ism. But I have found in all life circumstances if you keep the faith you will find that something good can come out of the most tragic of events and in this case, support, comfort and friendship for another in the same place.
You don't know me, but I too am a widow. I found your blog through someone that follows both of us.
Just wanted you to know you're never alone when it comes to Club W.
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