Yes, I'm asking this question just as I'm finishing up my last few years of being a "full time" mom. I've raised 5 kids and have set them loose on the world (well, 4 1/2).
But I still have Son #3 .... and some time left to try to help him.
He and I went out to the tennis courts this morning (and it was TOO dang hot!). We worked on his serves. The whole time I'm working with him I'm trying to decide if he really wants me to help .... or just wants me to be quiet.
I ask .... he shrugs.
So.
Much.
Fun.
So I kept coaching him and we stayed out there for about an hour or so. He kept getting better. He just needs some practice.
I told him that I'm willing to go out with him any time, if that's what he wants.
I am no Mr. Father-of-Venus-&-Serena-Williams.
Years (and years and years) ago I taught Suzuki piano. The girls were quite small. I stopped teaching when we moved to Texas. Son #1 was 1 at that time.
I had 20 students when I stopped teaching.
I find that incomprehensible now.
How in the world did I manage to take care of our home, cook, take D#1 to school, volunteer regularly in Tulsa, take care of 4 kids .... and teach 20 students??!!
I have no idea.
As a teacher, I could sit with a student and listen to her/him play the wrong note over and over and over and over again.
And stay patient.
As a mom, helping her children to practice, I could not listen to them make the same mistake more than 3 times or I'd lose my cool.
Why is that?
Why are we more patient with other people than with our own families?
I decided that it was best, for everyone involved, if I did not practice with them.
Please don't tell Mr. Suzuki.
Or any of his heirs.
So as I stood in the blazing heat and continued to hit balls back to Son #3, over and over and over again, I wondered what's the best way to coach your own child.
Your own 16-soon-to-be-17 son, to be exact.
I have to say, I was amazingly patient. Which sort of surprised me.
And probably surprised him.
That must be proof (more proof) that I'm getting old.
In an aside .... the alternate title of this post should be the words of a song that keeps running through my head .... "Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody ...."
Can I just say I pretty much loathe Saturday nights?
Went to the rheumy yesterday (I learned that nickname on line).
He upped the meds and put me back on the steroids. He said that it sometimes takes the med 2 months to start helping. So he wants me back on the steroid to help deal with the pain. Once the pain goes down, in a couple of weeks, I'll start weaning off of it and will be off when I see him again at the end of next month.
He did blood work.
He's pleased that I'm tolerating the med, as am I. I'm hoping that I still am as I now take a bigger dose. I decided to change the night I take it to Mondays, instead of Sundays.
That way I won't be sick on Monday mornings when I'm supposed to be playing tennis matches. Our season starts this Monday.
Yes, in the hellish heat of Texas.
They've changed the rules just for us.
We won't play a 3rd set, but just a 3rd set tie breaker.
And we only get 5 minutes to warm up (rather than 15).
And .... if the last two doubles teams (4 play in a match) haven't started their matches by 10:30, they have the option to re-schedule them for another morning (which is a HUGE pain in the backside. We all hate having to re-schedule rain makeups .... it's so hard to find a time that's good for everyone before the deadline).
We are the "away" team on Monday and all 4 lines of doubles get to start at the same time, which is rare, but oh so nice.
As to what's new on line .... not a dang thing.
I've been really surprised at the "aggressiveness" of the men on Match.com. I thought this site would be about dating and meeting people, not about finding one's "soul mate" or the "love of their life".
Or maybe that's just the kind of guys that I attract.
Great.
That's it for today.
I sure hope you're having a more exciting weekend than I am.
:)
Happy Saturday, Peeps.
God is good.
All the time.
:)
2 comments:
Don't give up on Match. It's where I found my great guy. There are guys that want to have fun and meet people. Unfortunately, there are quite a few who want to jump in very deeply and we all know the real motivation there. I joined and quit Match several times because it CAN be very disgusting and annoying. But there are also interesting people to meet and talk with. You will get to where the idiots don't bother you as much. Keep trying. There's potential for fun there I think. Heck, who WOULDN'T want to spend time with you?? ;)
Perhaps Match.com has changed since I used it. I used it back when it was "you met *where*?" usually with a disapproving look. But, don't give up yet- 14 years ago last month I did meet my soulmate there. Next month we'll celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary.
Just saying, love is out there. And, the frogs I met before now make for great stories. ;)
Chris
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