Word for word.
20 hours ago
- Put this on your blog:
Dear Anons,
This is Son #2. I've noticed a lot of you have been judging my mother while cowering behind your monitors. Look, I'm flattered you feel the need to stick up for me, but trust me, it's not needed.
First off: So yes, I'm not living with my mother. While some of you think that's terrible, ( Trust me, I did too, at first ), but then I thought about it. I'm 19 years old, do I REALLY want to be living with my mother? Of course not! It's time for me to take care of my own and live my own life. She was just re-enforcing that. If your child can't spread their own wings and fly at 19, that's your issue. What you also do not know is that she has given me a car, a phone, and insurance for a few months until I can get on my feet.
Secondly: Now about the living arrangement. Yes, I am living with a friend, and I'm loving it. To the Anon who said they took me in because they pity me, who the hell are you?! My friend doesn't pity me. My friend took me in because they love me, and they're helping me because they know I'd do the same for them. That's called being a real friend.
Thirdly: To the Anon who said judgment is okay... WHAT!? That has to be one of the most ignorant things I've ever heard! For those of you reading this, and who know my family personally, you know I was always the odd one. My whole life I've been judged by my family, society, and even church. Not many of them really knew me. So I know how it feels. Judgment is a tool used by the human psyche to break down others in order to forget ones own shortcomings, and it is 100% fueled by ignorance. So go ahead, judge my mother and anyone else you run across on the internet. Just know, whenever you post something like "Judgment is okay", follow it up with "and I love being ignorant!" You should be working to better yourself as a person, physically and spiritually, every opportunity you get. Not just accepting your flaws. If that's how you want to live though, then okay. To each his own.
Well, that about wraps up on my rant. Anons, I hope the countless hours you spend surfing blogs and trolling people brings you joy. Everyone deserves to be happy. Even if those people are little annoying parasites sucking on the last bit of hope I have left for humanity as a whole. As for everyone else, thanks for reading, have a good rest of the day.
- S#2
He sent it to me via Facebook and said to put it on the blog.
And so I did.
I didn't think he ever read the blog, let alone the comments!
I love that kid.
:)
Happy Tuesday, Peeps.
:)
17 comments:
Janine.....I was just thinking the same thing "I love that kid", and I don't even know him!!!!! He's going to do just fine for himself,,,,,,,just you watch and see! Always, always, always, son #2, stick up for yourself,,,just as you have done in your letter. There are more ignorant people in this world than we have room for, and they don't mind hurting other people over something that is really none of their business. I'm so glad, for you, that you were able to come back, and start your life in a different direction than you had originally thought. You sound like one great guy, and I wish all the very best for you. Welcome back!!!
Jacquelyn
Son #2 -- you rock. Way to put the Aholes -- I mean Anons -- in their place :)
GO MOM. GO SON #2.
Lol!
I have read your blog for a couple of years and never commented. I don't really know why I hadn't commented. Shy I guess? :) But I have to say, from the moment you posted about making the decision that your son couldn't move back into your home, I knew you would take a lot of heat for it. But I also TOTALLY AGREED and UNDERSTOOD your decision. I have a son who needed to make a life of his own and got the "loving shove" out of the comfortable nest of our home. He rose to the occassion (with a few stumbles)and has built a life of his own.
All I have read over the past years has shown what a loving mom you are. Making the tough choices and decisions are a lot more loving than enabling our children by being passive.
All I read today shows me what an awesome son you have raised. Has he stumbled? Probably - don't we all. But HE gets it. HE understands. It doesn't matter if total strangers on the web get it (or people you know in real life). You know your son. You know what is right.
Keep on keeping on Janine! Your kids will love you for it later!
PS I am only signing on as Anon because I don't have a google account. Not ALL anons are mean :)
love not that S2 stood up for himself (although i like that too), but that he stood up for his mom! Go S2! I hope my kids will stick up for me in love, too, especially when i've done something that they may not like (at least at first glance)
WOW..this is the same guy who Anon predicated would turn his back on his Mom and use Nursing Home placement for her care when she became to "old" to care for herself? LOL..I think NOT..
Son #2, high five!!
Jo Ann
The fact that your son was willing to write that letter speaks volumes about what a great job you did raising him!
From the moment I read that you were not letting him come back home my heart broke for you. The strength it must have taken to not only say those words out loud, but to actually follow through, hats off to you.
As a mom you sure don't hear it as often as you need to and it probably doesn't feel like it, but please know that there are other moms out there that think you are doing a great job!
Julie from Canada
TiSon #2, I have never met your mom, am not a widow, but do have a son I love dearly that I painfully watch flounder.
As a mom I am not easily fooled, but I so love and respect you for owning your own situation, and defending your mom! You may not always feel it, but you will make it! Hang in there sweet boy/man! Your post show that you are growing and maturing, not to mention your mom will be cared for In her old age! Geez!
I am just a lurker from OKC, rarely post, yet I am proud of you and proud for your mom, for sharing your thoughts!
Cari
Woot, I was so pleased to see the letter from son #2 Janine....it reinforces to all the negative anons to mind their own darned business.
I wish to reinforce my apology to you Janine about my comments on the first post when you talked of not letting him come home. I just wanted to be sure you knew I meant no harm and to thank you for opening my eyes and making me think about the issue from your viewpoint.
WTG son #2 for stepping up to the plate and taking control of your life :-)
Hey son#2 - loved this comment. I have a 24 year old son that went thru something like this with us. Letting him go was the best thing that ever happened to BOTH of us. I thank God for that decision I made. We appreciate your comments and hope that your life takes you wherever you choose. It's all up to you! And yes, we will all be pulling for you.
You should be proud of that son of yours. :) So well said. :)
Way to so Nephew #2. Your a woderful person, always have been. I love that you stood up for your mom. You make me proud! I love you!
Wow! What a wonderful, loyal, mature, loving, man you are. Please continue to have "hope for humanity", bud -- there are far more good than bad. Honest.
Laurie
Well said S#2!
Yay, Son#2! This made me smile.
:-)
Paula
A great post to read! S#2 is getting his doo-doo together, obviously. It's a great start for him AND for you. Thanks for sharing.
Recently started following your blog when my father passed, and I was trying to get some insight for myself, my mom and just generally how to "deal" with it all...
Reading this reminded me of myself. You son has the same personality as me, although I am 10years older and a female :)
Haters are gonna hate, but it's the people that stand up to those haters and put them in their place that get places in life. Good for you son #2! I love a good rant letter sent to people who hide behind computers. I call them out A LOT! :)
-a girl in Jersey-
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